QUAERITUR: Wives of deacons aren’t deacons too, are they? | Fr. Z’s Blog (olim: What Does The Prayer Really Say?).

Thanks to Fr. Zuhlsdorf for this post which should help some of you to understand a little more about us deacons and who we are! I never ran across any “deaconite couples,” thank God, but I’ve seen a lot of lay folk acting like they are ordained. It’s called clericalism and sadly does more harm in the church than good. 

QUAERITUR: Wives of deacons aren’t deacons too, are they?

From a reader:

Over Mother’s Day weekend I attended mass at a church I do not usually attend. I noticed their bulletin listed a “Deaconite Couple.” Is that allowed? Women aren’t allowed to be deacons are they? This church is very progressive; they do not even have kneelers, which is why i question the validity of a couple filling the role of a deacon.

Deaconite?  Deaconite?

I know – and I fear – Kryptonite, but I have no knowledge of this ominous Dea-con-ite.  I don’t like the sound of it at all.

Is this stuff that makes my head nearly explode when I hear some permanent deacons preach?   Hmmmm….  I wonder if it comes in different colors.

A good book on women and the diaconate. Click to buy.

No, friend.  On your planet, women cannot now nor ever be in the future ordained deacons.  Not even the strengthening rays of your Earth’s yellow Sun can give Holy Church the power to ordain women.

There are some pretty strange things in some places when it comes to the permanent diaconate, however.  (I suspect the word you were after, friend, was “diaconate”.) I have seen goofiness galore, such as the parading of the permanent deacons’ wives into church during entrance processions and having them sit with the clergy.  Verystrange.  A very bad idea.

At different points in history and in various places, the word “deaconess” has been used equivocally to indicate a certain ministry some women served.  They were not ordained as the men who were deacons were and are now ordained.

The diaconate can, under the right circumstances, be conferred also on married men.  On the men.  Couples are not ordained.  The deacons’ wives remain the deacons’ wives, no matter what good support they can give to their reverend husbands as they carry out their ministry.  Any blurring of that boundary is probably done from either a lack of understanding of what Holy Orders are about or perhaps a ideological bent that seeks to shift or avoid the Church’s teachings and disciplines.

All in all, I think a lot of the silliness that surrounded the permanent diaconate is fading out.  Programs of formation (where there are any) are getting better, longer, sounder.  Younger men interested in the permanent diaconate are not carrying aging-hippie baggage.   Fewer and fewer priests they have to work with have screwy notions about liturgy and doctrine.

A final note:

A deacon is a deacon is a deacon.

For those of you out there who send in questions about whether or not a permanent deacon can function as a deacon in a Solemn Mass in the older, Extraordinary Form…. YES.  What part of their being a deacon is not getting through?  They are no less deacons than transitional deacons (though there often can be quite a difference in training, which is understandable).  A permanent deacon is ordained.  A permanent deacon is a cleric.  They are not hobby priests.  A permanent deacon is a deacon and they are to do what deacons do.

Real men pray the Rosary - By Jason Godin

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Ever wonder why church on Sunday is 90% women and 10% men? Click on this link to find the answer:

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Posted: May 18, 2013 in Uncategorized

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When I read the lives of many Saints, I was always amazed how some of them went to foreign lands, risking their lives, preaching the Gospel and baptizing hundreds, sometimes thousands of people young and old. Isn’t that what Our Lord commanded the Church to do: “Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.” (Matthew 28:19) So when I read this article linked below, I was shocked that this man desired to be baptized and was refused! It also reminded me of an incident in my early years as a deacon, when a pastor told me that I could not baptize any children in his parish unless the parents were regular donators using the envelopes for Sunday collections. After I said to him that I could never refuse anyone who wanted their child baptized regardless of how much money they gave or had and that the Sacrament of Baptism might be the instrument to bring them back to Mass, we parted our ways and I never saw him again (sadly he died shortly after due to a heart attack, R.I.P.+) I also think about all the babies who are aborted or even born alive and murdered, as we are hearing so much about in the news lately. Each day, I say a prayer for them, that by the blood they have shed, God will baptize them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit. Bishop Lawrence Graziano OFM, (R.I.P.+) taught us that prayer back in the 70′s and I’ve been saying it since. And of course we remember the “Good Thief”, who desired that Jesus would take him when He enters His Father’s Kingdom. 

So we have the three forms of baptism: Water, blood, and desire. Read the story and tell me what you think!

A BURNING FIRE IN THE HEART
Baptism of Desire vs. Baptism of Indifference


Abu Nemer had accepted his fate of having faith in Jesus but being refused baptism. The tradition of the Church calls this baptism of desire.

Read all about it…

http://www.newoxfordreview.org/article.jsp?did=1196-curtis

Permanent deacon candidates set for ordination June 1 at Cathedral

 

Fifteen men will be ordained permanent deacons for the Archdiocese of Philadelphia at a Mass celebrated by Archbishop Charles Chaput on Saturday, June 1 at the Cathedral Basilica of SS. Peter and Paul. CatholicPhilly.com invites you to read the following biographies of the men, and pray for them and the 275 permanent deacons serving the Archdiocese.

[photo] June 4th, 2011: Cardinal Justin Rigali ordains 19 men for the permanent diaconate.

Click here for a list of their names with photos: http://catholicphilly.com/2013/05/local-news/local-catholic-news/permanent-deacon-candidates-set-for-ordination-june-1/

Real men pray the Rosary – By Jason Godin.

Real men pray the Rosary - By Jason Godin

On May 13, 1917, the Blessed Virgin Mary appeared for the first time to three shepherd children in Fatima, Portugal. She shone radiantly before those whom the world initially took no notice – as the Mother of God tends to do – during a year that also saw the rise of Soviet communism and the horrors of World War I. Brutalities inflicted by Russian Bolsheviks and trench warfare, however, only further underscored the Fatima message – the need to pray the Rosary daily and for the conversion of Russia.

The Marian summons to pray the Rosary daily still resonates almost a century later. An apostolate based in southern Texas called Real Men Pray the Rosary (RMPTR) promotes praying the Rosary “in the light of Scripture, in harmony with the liturgy, and in the context of your daily lives” (cf. Blessed John Paul II, Rosarium Virginis Mariae, 43). Founded in March 2009 by David Calvillo, a lawyer in McAllen, and his wife Valerie, RMPTR has flourished online – over 27,000 “likes” for its Facebook page to date – and continues as a vibrant movement with the recent publication of Real Men Pray the Rosary: A Practical Guide to a Powerful Prayer (Ave Maria Press, 2013).

In just 134 pages, David Calvillo combines personal accounts, a historical primer of the Rosary, examinations of its prayers and mysteries that are rich with Scripture passages as well as magisterial teachings, and a “pray it forward” challenge to reveal some of the many fruits of praying the Rosary. He begins by sharing how praying the Rosary helped him avoid a future seemingly headed toward a failed marriage, a shattered family, and decisions steeped in a shallow spirituality. Where most men today take any hardships as tickets to quit, Calvillo proposes that a Rosary prayed with a friend, with music, in parts, or while exercising brings a person closer to Jesus through Mary and all other Christians suffering in daily life. A link to a community of prayer that transcends place and time, the Rosary frames earthly tragedies within heavenly triumphs. An entire chapter, in fact, shows how saints and popes have taught such a lesson.

What also makes the book worth reading is a chapter by David’s wife. Valerie explores a theme worthy of its own book, but one that fits very effectively into a practical prayer guide for men – a man of faith has a strong (if not occasionally stronger) woman of faith in his life. She writes about how women, as friends, wives, or mothers, can engender greater faith in men through encouragement, inspiration, and devotion to a life fueled by the sacraments. She reminds readers of worthy objectives in a world that objectifies women.

As the Church celebrates the Feast of Our Lady of Fatima today, it is a good time to read Real Men Pray the Rosary. It directs readers during this month of May – this month of Mary – toward deeper devotion and discipline in prayer. Its pages alert our senses to the great piety offered by the Fatima message, to rediscover peace and purpose, to live fearlessly and full of hope, and to begin doing so on our knees and with Rosary beads in our hands.